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Most of us don’t become people-pleasers because we’re weak. We do it because, at some point, it felt safer. Safer to keep the peace than risk being misunderstood. Safer to carry more than to disappoint someone. Safer to be liked than to be real. But that kind of safety has a cost. You say yes when everything in you says no. You shrink to stay agreeable. And eventually, you wonder why life feels so disconnected, even when it looks fine on the surface. Why People-Pleasing Snea

We don’t talk enough about the moment your body quietly stages an intervention. For me, it wasn’t a dramatic collapse. It was six weeks of being unwell the constant exhaustion, the tests, the biopsies, the appointments and the slow realisation that my mind had been overriding my body for far too long. I’d been rushing around and then suddenly, my body said: No more. What surprised me most wasn’t the illness itself. It was how much clarity came with being forced to stop. Midli

Bad news: I have microscopic colitis. Good news: I finally know what’s going on and there’s treatment. The past six weeks have been rough. Chronic diarrhoea. Multiple blood tests. A colonoscopy with biopsies. The slow, unsettling wait for answers. And then the confirmation: microscopic colitis, a form of Inflammatory Bowel Disease (IBD) that inflames the colon and shows up as persistent watery poo, abdominal pain, and cramping. It’s not glamorous. It’s not dramatic. But it ha

Self-doubt has a convincing voice.It sounds practical, even protective: “ Maybe you should wait until you’re more ready.” “Other people are better at this.” “Don’t embarrass yourself. ” It disguises itself as logic but what it’s really doing is keeping you safe. Safe from judgment. Safe from failure. Safe from standing out. The problem is, the longer you obey that voice, the smaller your life becomes. Why Self-Doubt Isn’t a Sign of Weakness Many women reach midlife believing

Let’s talk about work but not in the way you might expect. This isn’t about productivity hacks or career ladders. It’s about something deeper: how to reset your mindset around work so you can protect your energy, keep your peace, and show up fully for the life you actually care about. Not just the job. The life. Because at the end of the day, your job is not your identity. Your inbox is not your worth. And you weren’t made to hustle just to survive another workweek. Instead,

The woman you want to become is being built right now, in the small, consistent steps you take today. I don’t know about you but I always have a goal - which I love. There is something so exciting striving for more and enjoying the journey you take. We tried for a baby for six years. If you have been through your own fertility journey you’ll know how all consuming that is. IVF, loss, the physical, mental and emotional impact of it all is insane. We are so lucky to have Cordel

Whilst I have grown to love routines it can often feel like we are living the day on repeat. We wake up, go through the motions, fall...

How to stop chasing perfection and start advocating for your own fulfilment If you’ve been feeling stretched thin or pulled in too many directions lately, you’re not alone. So many of us, especially in midlife, find ourselves trying to “balance it all,” only to end up losing pieces of ourselves in the process. The truth is, balance isn’t a finish line. It’s not a perfect schedule, a flawless routine, or a color-coded to-do list. Balance is a practice. And more than that, it’s

In 2022 I had a baby. It didn’t take long for my abs to go MIA. I lived on cold coffee, and the only squats I did were picking up toys....

I did something scary, I put myself out there. I posted on my Instagram and Facebook that I had launched my website and podcast. I’m...

When I started my mental illness recovery in 2008 I began a journey to rewire my brain. Undoing and rebuilding beliefs became my mission. How did I do it? I built new thoughts and habits consistently. Underlying that process was my unshakable commitment, and the belief that life could be better. I followed the process and stayed the course. I then repeated it. I have applied this process to mental illness recovery, our fertility journey, and my fat loss and fitness journey. A

Why Morning Routines Matter How many times have you woken up and immediately grabbed your phone, scrolled social media, or checked emails? Then suddenly your day feels off-track before it’s even started.   Morning routines are important because they set the tone for your entire day. Being more intentional in the mornings has made a significant difference to my days.   Mental Clarity and Focus Having a structured morning routine helps clear mental fog. It prepares your mind f

I do tend to get quite emotionally involved in things. Which isn’t always a bad thing but, it can be quite stressful. I have had to spend...

I listened to an amazing podcast on my a walk the other day. It was regarding business however, the key messages are transferable to all...

Have you ever caught yourself rushing through life on autopilot, ticking off to-do lists, reacting to whatever comes your way, and...

Pregnancy wrecked my body. It took 18 months to feel strong and like me again. I made a commitment to myself to become the healthiest,...

This week one of my mantra’s on repeat is “don’t believe everything you think”. Our brains are basically like a prediction machine, and...

Big goals sound great, until you realise that they don’t just magically happen overnight. Do you remember learning to ride a bike? I...